Work With Me

This work is for those who want to move beyond inherited scripts — through awareness, inquiry, and conscious choice.

I offer several ways of working together, depending on your context and intentions. All of my work is:consent-based, non-pathologising, and grounded in research, philosophy, lived experience, and ethical reflection.

I am not a psychologist or psychotherapist, and this work does not replace clinical treatment, should you need it. It is educational and reflective in nature, and intended for people who are willing to engage with complexity rather than seek quick answers.

My style is inspired by solution-focused therapy. I believe that the individual is the expert on their own life. I don't tell you what to do or dwell on your problems. The focus is on ideas, patterns, and options — moving toward greater authenticity at a pace you set.

Tough choices may be part of this journey, because ultimately you are responsible for who you become.

What I Offer

  • 1:1 coaching is for people who want to explore how conditioning and internalised norms shape their sexuality, relationships, and sense of self. Or, for people who want greater self-acceptance around a kink, fetish, or sexual identity.

    This work often centres on:

    • recognising inherited sexual and relational scripts

    • understanding how power, agency, and desire have been shaped or constrained

    • reclaiming sexual assertiveness, sexual self-esteem and sexual satisfaction

    • increasing sense of self-worth

    • integrating desire, boundaries, and identity in a way that feels authentic

    It is a reflective, educational, and exploratory process — for those who are ready to look honestly at how they have learned to adapt, comply, or self-limit.

  • I work with couples and partnerships who want to explore or deepen their understanding of:

    • kink and power exchange

    • consensual dominance and submission

    • non-monogamy or alternative relationship structures

    This work is grounded in:

    • consent, communication, and ethical relating

    • awareness of how gender norms, cultural narratives, and political systems shape relationship structures and dynamics

    • curiosity rather than performance or pressure

    We explore questions and uncertainty with curiosity, to help you make choices around your relationship structure and/or dynamic. Inevitably this could involve challenging conversations, difficult decisions, and strong emotions. If we uncover underlying problems in your relationship that would benefit from therapy, I may request that you engage with a couples therapist before continuing the work, or in parallel.

  • I offer lectures, seminars, and teaching engagements based on my doctoral research and professional experience in clinical sexology and femdom.

    This work is particularly relevant for therapists and clinicians who want to:

    • deepen their understanding of power, agency, and sexuality

    • discover unexamined beliefs and biases and how they can influence therapeutic practice

    • move beyond pathologising or reductive views of kink, BDSM, and female dominance

    Topics I address include:

    • how femdom can positively impact sexual satisfaction, sexual assertiveness, and sexual self-esteem in women

    • the role of gendered conditioning in shaping female sexual expression

    • expanding understanding of sexuality and relationships beyond vanilla, mono- and heteronormative frames of reference

    Engagements can be adapted for therapist training programmes, professional development days, or conferences and academic settings.

Our Work Together

Unscripted Inquiry - A three-session exploration

€1,800

This is an entry point — a space to slow down and look honestly at what is shaping your experience.

Together we explore the scripts you have inherited or internalised, how power, desire, and agency are currently operating in your life, and what feels constraining and what feels possible.

The three sessions stand alone. There is no expectation to continue beyond them, and no pressure to do so. Some people find that three sessions is exactly what they needed. Others find it opens something they want to continue exploring.

Unscripted Becoming - A longer-form engagement

€4,800

Here, we go deeper into the inquiry, and we explore how insights translate into lived experience — how patterns shift, how choice becomes embodied, and how identity can be inhabited rather than performed.

Unscripted Becoming includes eight sessions over six months, plus ongoing access to me between sessions. That access matters. This kind of work doesn't pause between sessions — things surface, questions arise, moments occur that are worth capturing while they are alive. The work continues in the spaces between our calls, and my presence there helps you build momentum.

We work in six-month blocks, renewable by mutual agreement.

Participation in Unscripted Becoming follows the Inquiry phase, or can start directly if you know that this is what you need.

Unscripted Passage — A private walking journey

Some work cannot happen in a room.

The Unscripted Passage is a private, in-person walking journey — designed for individuals or couples who want to move through something that has become too familiar to see clearly. We walk together over several days, carrying what we need. Nature is the process. Conversation is the guide.

This is not a retreat. There is no programme, no agenda imposed from outside. What emerges, emerges — from the walking, the silence, the physical effort, and the unstructured time away from the architecture of your ordinary life.

What the Passage offers is rare: sustained, uninterrupted presence with yourself — and with someone who knows how to hold a space for what surfaces when everything else falls away.

It is particularly suited to people at a threshold. Those who sense that something needs to change but cannot yet see what, or how. Those who have done the intellectual work and need something more embodied. Those for whom the ordinary containers of life have become too small.

We choose the route, duration, and terrain together, based on what feels right for where you are. I recommend we spend five days, or more.

Individual: from €12,000 Couples: from €18,000

Professional fee only. Direct event-related expenses — travel, accommodation, and logistics — are covered separately.

Availability is extremely limited.

If something here resonates, you’re welcome to reach out. We can begin with a conversation.

Contact Me

Frequently Asked Questions

  • Coaching, as I practice it, is exploratory and future-oriented. It focuses on awareness, meaning, choice, and authorship — rather than diagnosis or treatment. We work with patterns, beliefs, and internalised narratives, rather than symptoms.

    Some people engage in this work alongside therapy, and that can be a supportive combination.

  • If you are experiencing acute distress, trauma responses, or mental health challenges that feel overwhelming or destabilising, therapy is likely the more appropriate support.

    If it becomes clear during our work that therapy would better for you, or a suitable complement to our sessions, I will say so.

  • This work may involve conversations about sex, sexuality, desire, power, or intimacy — but it is not sexualised, performative, or erotic.

    There is no physical contact and no sexual activity. The focus is on awareness, meaning-making, and choice: understanding how desire, identity, and power have been shaped, and how they might be experienced differently. We may discuss sex in more detail, dependng on your specific needs, and always within the boundaries that you define.

  • I may work with couples in limited contexts in person. Particularly around practically exploring power dynamics and consent.

    In addition, I offer the Passage, a walking journey, for couples as well as individuals.

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  • I don’t judge your choices or decisions. Many people begin this work individually before potentially involving a partner. What matters is honesty with yourself about your intentions, and a willingness to take responsibility for the impact of your choices over time.